The Real Outsider

I've been contemplating on a conversation I had with a friend two days ago. It started with blog sites about families and the kids. We exchanged ideas about how couples transform into selfless creatures when a baby is born. Seeing those pictures and reflecting on that idea felt magical. It seemed as if it was not human-like. Or maybe I'm too young to understand and not ready for that kind of transformation yet. Nevertheless, it was a real eye-opener to both of us to somehow realize how divine God is that He created such creatures capable of loving and caring for a total stranger and someone whose life will never be owned by anybody.


This led me to opening up the issue of adoption. There's really nothing wrong about adoption but some people find it hard to accept an idea such as this. Why? And so I began to wonder why couples adopt. I have a cousin who just adopted a baby girl. They waited and tried for fifteen years to have a child but they ended up adopting a baby. Why did they need to wait that long and end up adopting anyway? I tried to put myself in their shoes and I realized how bad it would make me feel to know that I will never be able to produce an offspring. It's like a slap on one's face. We surely can do things we never thought we could. We have both the egg and the sperm cells but why can't we make a baby? It surely is not a skill we can acquire. That's what's frustrating. We can all excel in different aspects but that doesn't give us the right to control everything. This is what makes every couple hesitant in adopting a child. Eventually they learn that whether it came from your own womb or from someone else, it really does not make a difference. This life we have is only borrowed. This makes us all equal and that's why we cannot separate the legitimate from the illegitimate. The word illegitimate does not apply and should not be applied to humans.


The real outsider doesn't exist. It never did. People, us, we created this. It was an idea which evolved since mostly everybody has their own opinion but never an original idea. So think twice. Would you still consider yourself an outsider? Your answer should be NO!